Friday, January 15, 2010

Japanese cemetery

Shasta asked to see what a Japanese cemetery looked like and since I live across the street from a fairly large cemetery, Choco and I took a short walk over to take some pictures.

Actually in the fields around us there are a lot of small cemeteries that seem to have a few family gravestones but most people have their grave plots at a temple. The cemetery across the street from us isn't affiliated with any particular religion and is privately owned so there is no temple around... Even so I think it is basically a Buddhist cemetery.


In Japan, grave sites are almost always family graves with the ashes of ancestors being entombed and their descendants added as the years go by. The graves open fairly easily and new urns can be interred. You can see where the lack of land space in Japan even is reflected in their cemeteries. Many generations of family in one grave; the grave sites crowded up against each other. In Tokyo I've heard of grave site condominiums all in one tall building with a common prayer room for everyone...


Traditionally Japanese gravestones are tall with the family name carved into it and in front of that is a flat area where grave visitors can step up to pray. Visiting graves is a very important part of Japanese culture and there are regular memorial days at certain months' and years' intervals. Visiting a grave means that the family will lovingly wash the gravestone, arrange flowers and sweets or beverages, pour water over everything and then light incense before praying.


At the entrance to the cemetery across the street there is a fountain area with buckets and ladles available for gravestone cleaning and then pouring of water, and you can see the rags hung out to dry after use.


Sometimes there are statues along side of the graves though I'm not really sure what they represent. The wooden sticks behind the graves have special Buddhist names written on them that the deceased has been awarded after he has passed away. I thought this was an interesting gravestone with both Japanese and English on it. Something about Nirvana..


This grave had only English on the stone and it even has a little color. I have seen a couple of graves with photos of the deceased embedded in the stone too which is a little surprising (the person staring out at you). I guess modern technology has reached almost everywhere.


Many, many of the graves today had cans of beer or sake on them given as offerings to the person who has passed away. Maybe the person really liked to drink? But sake also has a purification meaning so that may be the reason. In some places there were cans and bottles of soda I suppose for children who may be interred there also..


Usually Christian grave sites will not have the incense burning receptacle nor the stand for the wooden name poles. And Christian gravestones tend to be flatter and lay against the ground more. Tetsu and I have our own family grave way up in Northern Japan but we rarely get up to that city so we don't visit that grave often (our first baby's ashes are there). By Japanese standards we are really shirking our pious duties but as Christians I guess we don't put as much importance to the place where loved ones are laid to rest. I did get up to Northern Japan in 2008 so here is a picture of our family stone taken then. The Bible verse engraved in the stone is:

The Lord is my strength and my song and He has become my salvation. Ex. 15:2

Bet you didn't expect that field trip today!

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Some days are like that. Yeah, they are.

I joined my friends at patchwork yesterday. We are still coloring the Hugs and Kisses quilt. Now we are working on the corners and then those have to have textile sealer applied and be embroidered etc. before the quilt comes together as a flimsy... So no needles and thread yesterday, just coloring and talking and eating.

We had a bit of discussion about our Mini-Round Robin quilts that are still making the rounds. This month a thin border will be added and then quilted before getting passed on for the final binding application.

I SOOOO wish I could show you this Mini-Round Robin just because I have NO idea of what to do! But the recipient visits my blog so I can't ask for help here. Humph! This is not turning out as I expected and I don't know why I feel responsible. According to some people, some of the MRRs are turning out beautifully (I haven't seen them all) but the one I have now is NOT exciting. The colors don't really go together. There is no theme. Appliqued daises, crazy quilt block, pinwheels, liberty prints, maps of the world fabric, turquoise and purple, hand-dyed fabrics, gingham checks. So my job is to put on a border. Easy enough, but what is going to tie this all together...

A question.

The applique and embroidery on this MRR is very sparse. Yet there is a lot of space that "needs" something more. I could try to add more interest by appliqueing a few more daises I suppose, but the instructions are "apply a border" not "try to revive a boring quilt". I'm so afraid that the recipient is going to be disappointed and maybe a little ruffled when she sees this, and as I said, since I started this game I feel responsible... But I don't want to hurt anyone else's feelings by "fixing" things. (Although they might really be relieved... And besides, why should I think that I could fix this anyway?... I'm not so almighty...) Shall I just do my job and pass it on or should I try to add some interest to my friend's quilt?

I'll be glad when our Mini-Round Robin game is finished... Bad attitude, Tanya.

And I came home to the sound of running water and I find that a faucet had burst in our bathroom. Hot water spewing everywhere which isn't as bad as it sounds since Japanese bathrooms are sort of like a big shower stall anyway.

I remembered how to turn the main line off and called Tetsu who was NOT pleased to be bothered in the middle of the day. But what's a person to do? At least he might be able to suggest a plumber or something. And with the water off that meant no toilet use nor water for cooking. Tetsu grumpily came home and fiddled with the faucet swearing at curious cats who came to inspect his work. He stomped around the house flinging words at me to "lock up your dumb cats!" They are mine when they annoy him. After a trip to the hardware store he replaced the faucet and stomped back to work (at 6:30) slamming the door behind him and saying he'd be home late.

Thank you, Tetsu. Sorry to bother you.

=^-.-^= "meow"

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Japanese TV commercials

Japan has interesting TV commercials. Tetsu gets great joy from watching the commercials and commenting on which ones are good and bad. Most feature favorite Japanese movie stars or singers over undiscovered part time actors and quite a lot of the Japanese commercials use American celebrities. Let's see.. Right now Catherine-Zeta Jones is seen daily on a LUX shampoo commercial and Bruce Willis guzzles down an energy drink.

Quite often Japanese commercials will run in a series and a story will evolve over the months or even years. One of Tetsu's favorites is a long run canned coffee commercial starring Tommy Lee Jones. I have a feeling Mr. Jones made it big time in Japan after his movie Men In Black which featured aliens that hid out in human bodies... (I accidentally went to this movie years ago not realizing the alien theme... "Oh, GROSS!")

In the Japanese commercials "Alien Jones" who likes canned coffee, experiences earthling (Japanese) life. There must be 14 or 15 commercials out now and Tommy Lee Jones rarely says anything and never smiles. Occasionally he lets his "alienness" hang out when he becomes perturbed about something (he didn't think Japanese parents discipline their kids enough) and he's picked up a few Japanese mannerisms during his stay (he can bow at the proper 90 degree angle.)

In the most recent commercial Alien Jones makes the observation while spanning centuries of earthling life, joining the throngs of workers building China's Great Wall, Egypt's pyramids and Japan's city streets, that earthlings would have had it a lot easier if they'd remained monkeys.

I sort of like Tommy Lee Jones and despite his somber expression he must have a sense of humor to allow himself to be portrayed in such comical commercial segments. He probably makes a lot of money in them too!
(Pictures from the Internet)

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Busy Wednesday

January has gone back into the busy mode and today is Wednesday. How can I fall behind so quickly? I haven't been answering e-mails lately. Sorry, I'll try to do that tomorrow.

Quilty stuff.

The Feathered Star is back in the waiting line.

The Jewel Box quilt is slowly getting hand quilted. Nothing stunning but it is getting done.

I started the Bunny Hill applique blocks and when the cats hide my thimbles and quilt thread I pull that out and put in a few stitches. The February block actually got done last week but I'll post pictures when there is nothing else to show.

Off to the kindergarten, a private lesson, a ladies' class, a children's class and maybe if the weather holds a quick jaunt in the swimming pool. Let me tell you, it is a daily debate about whether or not I'm going to go to the swimming pool! Too cold!

Monday, January 11, 2010

Shopping

Yesterday was a holiday in Japan again. I think it was "Coming of Age Day" and Leiya was really supposed to celebrate with her friends, get dressed up in a kimono and be able to go out DRINKING. 20 is the legal age for becoming an adult and Leiya turned 20 last July. 20 is also the age of being able to vote, smoke, and drink etc. and so most of these "adults" take that to mean that they can get falling down, crawling into the house, drunk on this day. I don't think too much of "Coming of Age Day" though it would have been nice for Leiya to get dressed up in kimono. No matter. She's not in Japan and I suppose someday when she is back she can do that.

With a day off, Tetsu and I decided to start off early in the morning and have breakfast out and then go to an outdoor shopping mall and look around for a present for Leiya. Well... The Watanabes had their usual run around-have no idea where they are going, tour. Sometimes I wonder why we even bother to go out... we've never gone anywhere directly.

"Let's go out to breakfast first." says Tetsu as we leave the house.

"Better take you coat. It's cold today."

"Oh Tanya. You forget that I grew up in Northern Japan. This isn't even chilly. Don't worry about me! Now, let's see. There should be a restaurant open along Route 4... Let's head that way."

Two hours later he was still assuring me that a restaurant that served something besides curry or noodles was just a bit further.

"Never fear Tanya, we are almost near the outlet mall. Maybe something is open there." (It was 9:45 by then.)

"Good Glory!" says Tetsu as he steps out of the car, "It's freezing out here! What a difference in temperature!"

Give a guess at how much will-power it took for me not to say "I told you so."

The stores didn't open for another 15 minutes but poor Tetsu couldn't even walk around the open air mall that long. We headed back to the car and hit the streets again in hopes of finding someplace open for breakfast. I was ready to eat curry rice at this point.

After another 20 minutes of driving up and down Route 4 and other routes that looked promising we stumbled upon a DENNY'S. Are they even serving breakfast at this time of day?

We had a WARM breakfast and lots of HOT coffee in Denny's and I was content to read my Kindle the whole time while Tetsu browsed the newspaper and read me articles he thought was interesting. We didn't want to leave the place! Shall we just forget the mall?

But by 12:00 the day had warmed up a bit and we wandered through the shops coming to the conclusion that the mall was a "younger generation" mall and there was nothing that held fascination for us. We discovered Cold Stone Ice Cream and ate that for lunch (we might as well be cold inside and out!) and came home after only buying pickles and eggs.

I'll have to go shopping for Leiya by myself this week.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

A walk in the countryside

How about taking an afternoon walk with Choco and me through the Nikko countryside? Although we live in a residential area, just a few steps beyond the forest there is a lot of "country" out there that I just love.

Part way through our walk I came across a "chicken coop" of slightly free range "chickens". I don't think these are really chickens but they were very friendly and came right up to the fence to say hello to Choco. Choco, who is supposed to be a bird dog, did not like meeting the feathered creatures face to face and bolted in the other direction.

Sort of pretty aren't they? I think this is an indigenous breed to China that can now be found in Japan. Maybe called ukokko... I don't know what they are called in English. Callie, any idea?

Some jr. high school boys were just coming home from school. They are probably on the baseball team since school is still on winter break. Notice they all wear the same gym clothes, the same wind breaker, the same backpack and the same helmets and bicycles.

Because the leaves are off the trees we can see the very large cemetery that is near our house. Usually the forest hides this enough so that we hardly notice it is there.

A hill peeking through the forest.

A farm house with the ever present white pickup truck (I don't know why they always are white) and a rice field in the front yard.

I peered into a barn and caught the attention of one of the dairy cows. Choco hates the cows though they take quite an interest in her. She has the same coloring!

A stop sign. It says "Stop completely. Check thoroughly."

Bales of hay waiting to be used. In spring just after the hay has been cut, these white bales dot the fields. That shack they are sitting under looks about ready to fall down. I have picked up pieces of siding and roofing from the street when a heavy wind has ravaged this shack a bit more.

A river weaves through all the fields and there are little streams that make even more of a watery web. Japan has a lot of water. Sometimes there are herons wading in this river but none on this day.

In the distance a huge pig farm but even though it is quite a ways away when the wind is blowing in the "right" direction we can smell it! When we moved here from the city there was a small pig farm just behind our forest and the air had a definite "farm" smell. I didn't mind at all, so fresh and outdoorsy, but English kids would come into my house holding their noses which I thought was very rude. The pig farm was cared for by a neighbor family and what a hard life that was for the mother. I would leisurely be walking my dog and she was always out there shoveling slop and manure. She was my age but passed away about 8 years ago and I often think about her when I pass the old pig farm.

Nowadays the pig farm has been rented out to another neighbor (Mrs. Yano) and her husband runs a rabbit farm. The rabbits are too cute for me to want to get to know them better but here is a picture taken through the window grill.

And this is the back of our house. Needs a little color doesn't it? Okay, a 45 minute walk and on my pedometer that adds up to about 5000 steps. That's enough exercise for today...


Friday, January 8, 2010

Yumetaro-san!

Yesterday morning I was waiting for some kindergarten mothers to arrive for the first English lesson of the year when the doorbell rang. I thought it was one of the mothers come early but when I opened the door who should be standing there but Yumetaro-san and his dog Yuzu!

"You're back! You're well!"

And I hugged Yumetaro-san right there on the front porch! A very un-Japanese thing to do! But I was so happy to see him!

Yumetaro-san's been away from the neighborhood since the beginning of December. And I have been praying for him ever since. No word about his surgery. No way to find out how he was. I left a Christmas card in his mailbox but didn't know if he'd ever received it. Months ago Yumetaro-san had brought me a beautiful purple scarf that his sister had made from an old kimono. Yesterday morning when getting dressed I tied the beautiful scarf around my neck and said another prayer for him...

I just had a few minutes to talk with Yumetaro-san before my class arrived but I waved the purple scarf around and said

"Yumetaro-san! I've been thinking about you! Look! I was thinking about you just this morning!"

He was very pleased and surprised that I was wearing the scarf on that particular day.

So Yumetaro-san is back quite a bit thinner, looking a little haggard, a little low about the way his life has changed, but he's BACK!

"Thank you Lord for being with Yumetaro-san and healing him thus far. Even though he might not recognize Your power and mercy, let me praise You in his place. Coincidences are only proof of Your love and direction."

And thank you, blog friends, for your prayers also.


"And you are helping us by praying for us.
Then many people will give thanks
because God has graciously answered
so many prayers for our safety."
1 Corinthians 1:11
(New Living Translation)